Feelings About Caring
The constant demands of a caring role and the many changes in family life may bring about a range of feelings and emotions.
People may feel a sense of satisfaction about being a carer, though at times many carers say they can feel overwhelmed. These emotions can sometimes be difficult to cope with, but these feelings are a natural and normal reaction to caring.
Some of the feelings carers often say they experience are:
Feeling overwhelmed, confused and shocked by:
- The diagnosis of illness or disability, especially at first
- Finding yourself caring and realising the changes that caring for someone will bring to your life
Feeling guilty for:
- Believing you bear some responsibility for the person’s disability or illness
- Not wanting to be a carer
- Lost tempers and harsh words
- Needing a break from caring
- Placing the person that you care for in residential care
- Feeling resentful over doing the same things every day
Feeling afraid about:
- What will happen if you don’t cope?
- Picking up your life when your caring role ends
- What happens if you get sick?
Feeling sadness for:
- Loss of a relationship with the parent, husband, wife, partner or child you once knew
- Loss of the life you once knew and plans for the future
- Loss of opportunities for the person you are caring for